Creating a module to change from the Follow model to the Friend model
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The event you need to listen for is the 'db_update_item' event. If that event is updating the Follower datastore with 'follow_active' = 1 (ie. the follow has been accepted) then you can reciprocate by adding another entry to the Follower datastore where the 'followee is following the follower'!
That explanation may not mean a lot to you at the moment but 'datastores' are the basis of all item storage within Jamroom. They are MySql items and are accessed with php function calls within the custom listener module.