Video Display Problem
Using Jamroom
I've got this fixed for you.
The issue was you have a custom jrVideo_item_detail.tpl in your custom skin that was overriding the modules template, which has the code for the different players.
To fix it, I just changed your custom skins include.php file to use the gray_overlay player instead of the dark player by default since you stated you just wanted to use that player.
If you want me to modify your custom jrVideo_item_detail.tpl to use the player selected from the skin settings, let me know and I'll update it for you.
Thanks!